In her bi-weekly column, “State of the Territory,” former Sen. Janelle K. Sarauw delves deeper into issues of concern for V.I. residents.
As a young, Black female professional who identifies as a lesbian, I have faced the most profound levels of bigotry and discrimination not from white individuals due to my race but from my own community because of my sexual orientation. My journey has been and continues to be, fraught with challenges. I do not seek to complain or solicit pity. At one time, I was the stone the builders rejected. Regardless of my intelligence, talent, and education, none of it mattered. My community saw only my sexual orientation and deemed me an abomination. The scrutiny intensified with each election cycle as if my identity was a newfound revelation. The derogatory comments, the memes mocking my appearance due to my preference for attire traditionally associated with men, and the absurd notion that my sexual orientation equates to a desire to harm children all underscore the pervasive ignorance and prejudice I face. It is astonishing how carelessly society conflates sexual orientation with pedophilia despite their stark differences.
As a former elected leader, I was duty-bound to serve all constituents, irrespective of their beliefs, orientations, or prejudices. I endeavored to improve the quality of life for everyone, including Christians, Rastafarians, Jews, Muslims, atheists, Buddhists, bigots, racists, and the intolerant. During the aftermath of devastating storms, my team and I worked tirelessly from dawn to dusk to provide aid, never discriminating based on identity. Ironically, those who once launched vitriolic attacks often found themselves in desperate need, seeking assistance from my office.
The hypocrisy within society is palpable. One’s sexual orientation becomes irrelevant when purchasing luxury brands such as Alexander McQueen, Christian Dior, Dolce & Gabbana, Armani, Tom Ford, Jean-Paul Gaultier, Marc Jacobs, Michael Kors, Yves Saint Laurent, Jason Wu, Calvin Klein, Valentino or Christian Louboutin, none of whom are heterosexual. In moments of crisis, such as needing emergency surgery, requiring police intervention, or securing a life-saving legal defense, no one inquires about the sexual orientation of the professional aiding them. In these critical moments, the prejudice evaporates, revealing the absurdity of such biases.
It is important to understand that no LGBTQ+ individual willingly chooses a life of hardship and discrimination. Many of us are innately who we are, and no amount of societal condemnation will alter that. I empathize deeply with those who are navigating the process of coming out. The constant barrage of attacks can inflict lasting emotional and mental harm, potentially leading to an embittered and defensive demeanor. Someday, perhaps in retirement, I will find the time to write my story—a narrative that will undoubtedly move many to tears.
In conclusion, I implore everyone to practice tolerance. Intolerance has been the root cause of every conflict throughout history. Our collective fears and inability to understand or accept differences cripple us as a society. I am not asking for acceptance, merely for respect.
To those struggling, know that it is okay to seek therapy if the journey becomes overwhelming. Stand firm and, as Shakespeare wrote, “to thine own self be true.” Embrace, believe in, and fulfill your purpose. You may one day become the cornerstone that the builders once rejected.
As we celebrate Pride Month, I extend my heartfelt wishes to every member of the LGBTQ+ community. May this month be a time of joy, solidarity, and empowerment. Let us continue to stand together, celebrating our identities and our collective strength. Happy Pride Month to all and may we each find the courage to be true to ourselves and foster a world rooted in respect and understanding.
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