Most of us don't like to listen to others; we must experience a situation first before we believe. It's only when situations go wrong that we reluctantly admit that if we had only listened to certain individuals, in many cases we could have saved ourselves some heartache.
Although my Grandmother passed 10 years ago, I now regret not listening to her more when she was here. I was a very foolish child and often thought everyone was out to get me. I also thought I knew more than anyone else and I could do anything that I set my mind to.
Back in the day, when my Grandmother would give me advice, I would call her old-fashioned. Now that I am older, not a week goes by that I don't think about some of the old-time remedies she shared, whether it is the various bush teas or herbs. Often I recall the various lessons she taught me about how to treat people or deal with daily problems.
I also recall some of the simpler things she taught, like getting enough sleep by going to bed early. Or I may think of more important lessons that have served me well, such as not using drugs and keeping out of trouble.
While there were many times I felt my Grandmother must have hated me because she seemed so harsh, I now realize the discipline came with love. Now that she is gone I cannot thank her verbally, but I do thank my Grandmother every day by trying to do the right thing and by trying hard not to embarrass her name by behaving inappropriately in sticky situations I might find myself in.
I might even ask myself, "What would my Grandmother say or do if she were here?"
So, as we celebrate another Mother's Day, don't miss the opportunity to tell that individual who has been the mother in your life how much you love her and what a difference she has made in your life. Don't wait until she is gone to tell her what she means to you.
Let us not forget the grandmothers who were so instrumental in many of our lives. Not everyone has or had a great relationship with their grandmothers; but whatever the relationship, Mother's Day is the time to thank them for a job well done. Don't wait until they are gone; tell them now that they are the cornerstones of your life.
If I could go back 10 years, I would tell my Grandmother Sorry. Sorry for all the times you told me to do something and I didn't listen. Sorry for not staying with you an extra hour to see how you were feeling. Sorry for not having a heart of gold like you. And sorry you may have never known how much I loved you, Ann Boschulte.
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